Benefits of using positive self-talk

Self talk is the glue that holds together your self confidence, self worth and self esteem so it is an important part of your self improvement.

Developing yourself provides you with a huge advantage over your choices in life. When we know who we are then our choices in life increase. Positive self talk and how you use it influences our thoughts which in turn influences our feelings and therefore can have a profound effect on how we deal with life in general. By learning to control our self-talk and turning it into positive self-talk rather than negative, which most people do unconsciously throughout the day, you can begin to gain more control over every aspect of your life and make essential changes.

Your ability to succeed in life largely depends on how you deal with life, a positive mental attitude leads to a confident and ultimately more successful person than one full of negativity which leads to a lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. By taking a positive attitude you look at life in a different way to one of negativity, a positive attitude leads to seeing good in people and the world which leads to optimism and success. Your quality of life is based on how you think and feel from moment to moment and changing the way you think can drastically change how you see life and deal with life.

The person who goes through life optimistically with a positive attitude is better able to deal with life and the problems which it sometimes throws at us, they are able to bounce back and recover from problems or set-backs in life.

The optimistic person will see the problem for what it is, nothing but a temporary set-back which they can overcome and move on, when looking at life in this optimistic way the person is able to take full control over their thoughts and feelings and turn a negative situation into a more positive one by simply altering the way they think.

Since thoughts can either be positive or negative and you can only have one thought in mind at any one time then choosing positive will keep your thoughts, feelings and actions optimistic which leads to a happier person who is able to achieve their goals much easier.

Using positive self-talk in your daily life

You should use positive self-talk throughout the day in order to establish a new thinking pattern, you will probably have established a pattern of negative thinking for many years and this will take time to overcome, to start with you should aim to repeat positive self-talk around 50 times throughout the day, this can be achieved by repeating positive statements quietly to yourself or out aloud.

Positive self-talk can be used for many different aspects in your life, it can help you to overcome difficult situations, gain more confidence in yourself, help you to quit habits, recover quicker from illness or make changes to your life in general.

Popular phrases or sentences that can be used in positive self-talk include:

I have an interesting challenge facing me – this could be used when a problem occurs in life or there is some difficulty, rather than looking at the situation in a negative way and thinking I have a problem, thinking of it as a challenge is a much more positive way of dealing with it.

I like the person I am – this could be used to bolster self-confidence and gain respect about yourself and the person you are, similar statements could be “I am the best”, “I am a good person” or “I have many excellent qualities”.

I know I can do this – this could be used if you are faced with a certain task that you would previously doubt yourself capable of conquering, similarly you could say “I have the ability to conquer this” or “this doesn’t pose a problem for me”

I am full of health, energy and vitality – this can be used to encourage good feelings about your health either after you have been sick or while recovering from an illness.

I am fulfilled as a person – this can be used to encourage good general positive thoughts about yourself and the world in which you live.

Of course when you are starting out full of lack of anything it can be difficult to say the words "I am fulfilled as a person" and many people now believe that using phrases in this way do not work, but believe me, I have used them over many years and while they don't work alone they certainly had a huge impact in lifting my mood and making me feel better about myself. Once I had experienced that lift I began to feel as if I am a fulfilled person which I then worked towards becoming.

Deciding I am a fulfilled person is the main step to achieving fulfillment! You can decide you are fulfilled with everything you have in life right now even if you still want more, it doesn't mean you never have to work towards anything, it just means you are accepting life as it is now and willing to work towards achieving more.

Accepting your current situation, no matter how bad it may be, is a huge key to getting more of what you want. If you focus only on what is missing you focus on lack, when you focus on only lack you get more lack. By changing your focus and thinking about how fulfilled you are or how full of vitality you are then you will eventually begin to experience these emotions - simply because you have chosen too.

Your self-talk is the link between all of this, self confidence, self worth and self esteem - in every moment of every day it will determine how you react. If your mind is full of negative self-talk you already know what the result will be, so spend some time accepting that you have a choice about what you say to yourself and how you say it, and choose to focus on what uplifts you rather than what brings you down.

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For help with developing your self talk and overall self confidence read - Change your beliefs, change your life by Nick Hall
Change your beliefs

In Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life, Dr. Nick Hall shows you how to recognize the impact your beliefs have on your life. The important thing is to know where any given belief comes from and understand how and why you internalized it - especially if it's a belief you want to change. You also need to recognize those beliefs you've been suppressing or ignoring - beliefs that have become habits or beliefs that are preventing you from getting the most out of your life.