Is your self worth it?

Your self worth is an important part of life. Self confidence and self worth combined form your self esteem.

Your self worth focuses on how you think and feel about who you are, whilst confidence focuses on helping you to be out there in the world and achieving results self worth is more about believing in your worthiness to receive.

If you have spent years setting goals and working towards them but you are still not experiencing the results you want then take a look at your self worth because this is the part of you that will allow yourself (or not as the case may be) to manifest what it is you are working towards.

So many times we work towards something only to fall down at the last hurdle! If that is you then you may need to look at whether you really believe you are worthy of what it was you were trying to achieve.

Do you believe you deserve to get the girl or guy?
Do you believe you are worth getting fit for and losing weight?
Do you believe you can have everything you desire in life?
Do you believe you are able to achieve the results you want?

This is all about you loving you and giving you the respect, love and consideration you desire. We give others respect, love and consideration but how often do we give ourselves what is due?

How you value yourself is based on the self-esteem you have, your self-esteem shows you how much you truly value yourself. Healthy self-esteem leads to independence, happiness, flexibility, and the ability to adapt easily to change, co-operation and a positive outlook on any situation. Unhealthy or low self-esteem on the other hand leads only to irrational thoughts, unhappiness, fear of the new, rigidity, defensiveness and a negative outlook on life in general.

How we see ourselves has a lot to do with how others see us, if we are happy, smiling and full of confidence then others see us as someone they want to be around, if we respect ourselves and portray this then others will respect you too, after all how can you ask for respect from others if you don’t even respect yourself?

So finding and developing your self-worth leads you towards developing your self-esteem, so let’s take a look at esteem

Healthy self-esteem

If you have healthy self-esteem you will see certain positive traits in yourself and how you see yourself, traits linked with high self-esteem or self-worth are

• You are secure about who you are and have confidence in your abilities
• You allow yourself to show your true feelings to others
• You don’t have intimacy problems in relationships
• You are able to recognize and take pride in yourself for your achievements in life
• You are easily able to forgive yourself for mistakes and also forgive others

Low self-esteem

Similarly if you have problems with self-worth or low self-esteem then you will follow a certain pattern in your thoughts and ways, if you have problems with low self-esteem then you will see the following points in yourself

• You lack belief in yourself and are very insecure
• You have problems showing and accepting intimacy in relationships
• You never let your true feelings show
• You never recognize and give yourself credit for your accomplishments
• You have the inability to forgive yourself or others
• You resist change at every opportunity

Developing your self worth

There are plenty of ways in which you can boost your self worth and you will find different articles on this site to help you. Some basic tips I can provide to help you get going include:

• Don’t take other peoples criticism to heart, instead listen to what they are saying and learn from it.
• Take some time out for yourself everyday, meditate, look inside yourself and realize all your good points.
• Celebrate and pride yourself on even the smallest achievements that you accomplish.
• Do something everyday that you enjoy, such as talking a walk in the sunshine or soaking in a bubble bath.
• Never deprive yourself of something you enjoy, if you know you shouldn’t be doing it, then do it anyway and stop chastising yourself about it.
• Talk positively to yourself, repeat affirmations to chase away all of the negative thoughts and feelings.
• Begin to foster self worth by looking after yourself. Your hair, your diet, your clothes – when you know you are worth it you take the time to look after your body, mind and spirit.
• Spend time listening to authors that empower you. This isn’t a journey that will be solved by reading a few tips. You may need more professional help.
• Seek professional help to overcome deeper issues. A lack of self worth may be connected to things that have happened in your past. Get professional help to work through them.
• Stay determined to succeed. If you are determined to increase your self worth it will happen.

Self worth is a crucial part of self-esteem as I have said and continue to say through this website. Miss out self worth and you may have great confidence in your ability to start out to achieve something but you may never get to achieve it because you sabotage your success believing you are not worthy to receive.

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